Just like the Mama, You Rock cards, which you can get here, these cards are perfect for sending an uplifting note to your mama friends. So many of my mama friends inspire me in different ways. I hope receiving a note in the mail helps those mamas to feel appreciated and realize that not only are they doing a great job raising their kids, but they are also making a positive impact on the other mamas in their life too. The best thing about these cards is that they can be used year round and I definitely think mamas deserve love, encouragement and recognition all year!
One of the hardest things for me when transitioning from working to staying at home was the lack of validation and re-assurance that I was doing a good job. At work, I didn’t get much of this either, so I figured I would have been better prepared, but I quickly realized that I had figured out ways to validate myself. I made to-do lists, did trending to make sure I was always improving, I had an annual audit where an outside source evaluated my work, then gave me feedback and a score. As a stay at home mom, my to do lists were never even getting looked at, heck, I was barely even finding time to shower and I constantly felt like I was failing. I didn’t really talk to anyone about how I was feeling, but I assumed I wasn’t the only one.
Facing challenges like that again, also brought back a lot of memories from my first year with each of my boys. Hudson had reflux, allergies and eczema and was therefore always fussy and needing to be held. Luc had food intolerances and tummy issues (nothing to the extreme like with Hudson), but he was a terrible sleeper and I was an emotional mess. So many times I would wonder why motherhood seemed to be so much harder for me.
As I talk to more and more mom friends though, I realize that many of us feel this way at one point or another. I had been trying to think of a small way I could make a positive change and had a little lightbulb moment around the holidays and when we were in Australia. Just before we left for our trip, my best friend’s mom sent me a text telling me she was proud of me and that I was doing a wonderful job with my kids and then while in Australia, my sister-in-law also told me that I was doing a great job raising my boys. I cried when I read those words in the text and almost burst into tears the second time too. Their words were so powerful and it got me thinking that many of us moms don’t hear encouragement like that often enough. It seems like the focus is primarily on what we are doing wrong or what we can be doing better (and I am definitely my own worst critic) so it was just nice to feel validated and hear that encouragement.
I decided I wanted to make more of an effort to uplift my mama friends, but sometimes it’s hard or awkward, at least for me, to verbalize praise for my mama friends, especially when most of our gatherings involve chasing after our kids. I figured a card would be a better approach and there is just something special about receiving a hand written note in the mail. I enlisted the help of one of my favorite mamas to do the artwork. She founded the facebook group, First Time Mommy Group, which provided me with so much support and encouragement my first few years of motherhood (you can also find her on instagram, just click here). It seemed fitting that she be involved in creating another way to uplift and acknowledge mamas. I’ve made her beautiful artwork into a printable and can’t wait to start writing notes to send to all my mama friends.
I hope we can use these notes to tell our mama friends what a great job they are doing, or to share our own struggles so they don’t feel so alone or just to give them a little boost on a tough day (because even the best mom with the easiest baby has those tough days). I hope we can use these cards as one step towards lifting each other up and encouraging each other because Mama, You Rock!
*If you send or receive one of these cards and share it on social media, please use the hashtag #mamayourock
You know the mom in Target whose kids are all melting down and she is on the verge of melting down herself? Not only have I seen this mom multiple times, but I’ve also been her. Since I know how this feels, I try to give a smile and an “I know exactly how you feel because I’ve been there” nod, but I always feel like I want to do more.
Enter my husband, who one day was complaining about someone buying him his coffee that morning. I’ve been seeing a lot of this lately actually, where the person in front of you at the drive-thru coffee line buys your drink then you pay it forward by either buying the person behind you coffee or with some other random act of kindness. This obviously makes the do-gooder feel great and it is supposed to brighten the receiver’s day too, but my husband, who tends to over-analyze things felt guilty. Was he now supposed to do the same? What if the car behind him was packed full of people with a massive order? Was he supposed to come up with some other way to “pay it forward?” I know he is missing the point (don’t men tend to do that?), but all he wanted to do was buy his coffee and be on his way (I can sort of see his point if I am being entirely honest – don’t tell him I said that ;)).
As I was thinking about all of this, I decided I like the core idea of paying it forward – a random act of kindness to spread joy – and decided that I would like to partake, but in a more intentional way. I came up with the idea to make these cute little gift card sleeves and fill them with $5 coffee shop gift cards so that the next time I see an overwhelmed mama I can hand it to her and hopefully lift her spirits a little. I know in those moments, we often feel utterly defeated and then on top of that, judged by those around us. My hope is that this card will not only make the mama laugh and give her a little caffeine boost, but also just let her know that I support and encourage her.
If you would like to spread some mama love, click here to download this printable.
Supplies (you could easily do this without most of these supplies, but they might make your life easier)
- Paper Trimmer
- Score Board and Bone Folder
- Double Sided Tape (Glue would also work)
- 1 ” Circle Punch
- Print out the printable on cardstock
- Cut out using paper trimmer and scissors
- Use circle punch to remove half circle for tab
- Use score board and bone folder to make creases along white lines
- Add double-sided tape or glue to tabs
- Fold card over and press down to attach to tabs
- Gift card should slide nicely inside